Strengths & Strategy, Video 1: 3-Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic and Create a Clean Slate

In Business and Entrepreneurship, Featured by Cynthia Lou5 Comments

Welcome to the first video of our Strengths & Strategy series – “Create a Clean Slate – How to Silence Your Inner Critic to Allow Bold, Inspired Action”!

If you’ve ever:
– started, then stopped, a project, over and over again
– found yourself in an endless loop of, “Should I….?”
– been unable to commit to a specific path

You could be at the mercy of your inner critic.
Your inner critic will make you to doubt yourself, will make you question every step you take towards bold new territory.

Your inner critic will topple your dreams like a toddler’s fist through a game of Jenga…and is often just as innocent. Your inner critic simply needs to be redirected and calmed down so it is no longer destructive.

This first step is critical to finding our Strengths because the process of finding our strengths requires courage – the courage to focus on our strengths, and the courage to release our weaknesses. Only after we clear out the voices that tell us how we “should” be doing things can we start to hear that still, quiet voice of our intuition.

Without taking this time to clear out the inner critic, we can sometimes find distorted, inaccurate strengths, i.e. the strengths you “should” have, or the strengths you “want” to have, versus your real, genuine wellspring of gorgeous, shiny talent.

It’s kinda like the ear doctor clearing out your earwax so they can best see your eardrum. (Eieww, but you get my drift, right? ;))

3-Steps to Silence Your Inner Critic

  • Step 1 – Identify Your Critic

    The first step to erasing the inner critic’s power is to identify it and take it from an unconscious, automatic response to conscious awareness.
    – Who’s voice is it?
    – Where does it emanate from?
    – What does it sound like? Is it near or far? Booming and close?

  • Step 2 – Change Your Critical Voice

    We have the power to change how the critical voice occurs to us, simply by changing aspects and characteristics of it.
    – Change the tone and pitch of the critical voice
    – Change the physical location of the voice – make it some from somewhere silly, like your kneecap
    – Make it sound like farther away, less vivid, less menacing, less powerful
    – Put it in a silly cartoony voice – one that makes you laugh, that you can’t take seriously.

  • Step 3 – Strengthen Your Positive Voice

    Nature abhors a vacuum, and without a new “toy” for the mind the negative critical voice could easily sneak back in. Strengthen your own positive, encouraging voice to support you towards your bold action.
    – Think of a positive, encouraging voice. Is it yours, a coach’s, a mentor’s, a friend’s?
    – If the voice is not yours, change it so you are hearing the encouragement in your voice
    – Make the voice louder, brighter, more vivid! Boom it as if from loudspeakers!
    – Add images, mental movie clips, to the encouragement. Let your encouragement fill your mind, a great movie of positivity in your personal theater

To your clear channels and a booming theater of success,
Cynthia

Comments

  1. Lisa

    oooo I loved ID-ing my inner critic. As soon as you gave your example I totally heard the BIG BAD BOOM from the top of my head – it makes me get heavy in the shoulders and my neck feel sore. UGH-ish. hehehe Hearing it as a tiny toon under my toe I thought I’d just take a step well…what big bad boom??? THANKS!

  2. Lisa

    oooo I loved ID-ing my inner critic. As soon as you gave your example I totally heard the BIG BAD BOOM from the top of my head – it makes me get heavy in the shoulders and my neck feel sore. UGH-ish. hehehe Hearing it as a tiny toon under my toe I thought I’d just take a step and well…what big bad boom??? THANKS!

  3. Author
    Cynthia Lou

    LOL that’s great imagery, love it, thanks for sharing Lisa! The more silly examples I collect the more fun it is to hear my “menacing” inner critic and turn is into a tiny toon to squish! 🙂

  4. Sang Logan

    Ultimately, whether it comes from within or without, the voice of fear and criticism can assert its power only where we have surrendered our own. It can and will speak only where we do not. So do not see the “inner critic” as a nuisance or an actual enemy, something to war with or be afraid of. See it instead as an internal signal calling you to a place where you need to bring more of your balance, healing, and strength – more of who you truly are.

  5. Author
    Cynthia Lou

    Great point. I add that sometimes it is useful to clear out some of the emotional static from the internal critic before being able to USE the power of the inner critic for balance, healing, and strength. These days, with enough of my personal strength restored I welcome and lean into fear and criticism, I am indeed listening to my voice and speaking up.
    Thanks for your comment!

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